Meeting new people could be awkward for some of us. While some of us bask in the glory of meeting new people, it is difficult for many people to get out there and make a first impression that has a positive impact with whom they’ve met.
Some people might be of the opinion that a person’s true motives and intentions couldn’t be figured out in the first meeting itself, but it does help to communicate your credibility non-verbally, through your body language. The way you present yourself in your first meet could make or break your long-term relationship with that person.
Once you’ve taken care of your personal hygiene and dressed for the part, next up is how you communicate non-verbally. Your body language communicates your confidence and credibility and this is something that could be easily developed through practice.
7 Body Language tricks to become Instantly likeable
Everyone wants people to genuinely like them since the moment they meet someone new. There are certain tricks of this trade to help you establish your credibility and a good first impression. Here are 7 of the best Body Language tricks to become more likeable.
Greet with your best Smile
A smile does work wonders during your initial meet. A genuine smile delivered properly signifies that you truly care for the person. As author Leil Lowndes writes in her book ‘How to talk to anyone‘, a slow and big, warm flood of smile adds more richness and depth to the way a person perceives you.
Also, do not flash your smile when the person is approaching you, but still a bit far away. Hold it till he is in your line of vision and then unleash your smile. This is one way to acknowledge that the greeting was sincere and especially for them, giving them a feeling of being important. A smile also between your conversation signifies your intent of paying attention to what they have to say and that you are agreeing with them.
Embrace the power of touch
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Gentle touches on the forearm or on the shoulder of the other person while greeting them is another way to impart your genuineness and a cordial approach. If you look at The meet of Bill Clinton and Nelson Mandela,
You will understand how importance a bit of touch plays in meeting and greeting a new person. Notice how in the video, Bill Clinton shakes hands with Nelson Mandela, while later placing his left hand over his forearm. A tap on the shoulder will also give away a feeling of warmth and friendliness.
This shows that your care is genuine and it breaks down the barriers of communication, letting you up and close with the person. The other person would also like you for your show of affection and genuine care for them, making you instantly likeable.
Keep your posture upright, not rigid
The secret to maintaining confidence while speaking is to have your spinal cord completely straight. A straight and firm back lets you articulate your thoughts properly and gives you further confidence while speaking to someone new. Just one thing to be taken care of while doing so is that you must not get too rigid or fixated. Try to keep your body loose and your back straight.
A Harvard study concluded that people who hold expansive poses and take up larger area exhibit better levels of confidence as compared to those who don’t. Never shrink yourself in or you would imparting a lack of confidence. Chest out, straight back and relaxed body is the sign of a confident person.
Pivot completely towards them
This is something that should be taken care of the most. In environments where multiple people meet and greet, your attention should be towards the one you want to make an impact upon. Once this person approaches you, try to completely pivot yourself towards that person and not just your face. Doing otherwise would convey a negative message that you don’t care much about the person and will only be conversing with him as a formality.
Give the person your undivided attention and completely turn towards them. To further improve it, try leaning just slightly towards that person giving an impression that you are eager to listen their thoughts. We only like people who respect us and show them that you truly care for them by being completely attentive.
Try and maintain eye contact throughout
This is another most important act of your initial conversation to impart confidence and credibility to your speech. Try to maintain eye contact with your target person throughout the time. If you ever need to break eye contact for some reason, do it slowly and not in a jerk, abruptly breaking contact with the person. You would seem more uninterested if you break away eye contact whenever permits.
Beware of rapid eye blinking and staring completely blank at a person throughout the conversation, you might come out as creepy. Take little breaks of eye contact while coming up with your answers and blink normally while maintaining eye contact with the other person.
Gesticulate when you speak
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Not using an articulated movement of arms and fingers while speaking is a bad way to communicate with someone. You will feel more rigid like a structure and come off completely insincere due to a lack of movement of your arms while talking. Gesticulation is completely normal and illustrates your enthusiasm and interest regarding the said topic. You must also try to show your thumbs in the front while talking, forming a teepee-like structure and not fold your hands while talking to someone.
Gesturing while talking also helps you in your thought process and establishes your credibility and interest in the topic. But care must be taken that you do not end up gesturing a lot, which will make them perceive you as an exaggerating lunatic.
Totally avoid fidgeting
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Another important factor which sub-consciously everyone ends up doing during their first meet – Fidgeting. It just doesn’t get any worse than fidgeting when you meet someone for the first time. Fidgeting is a sign of nervousness and is often called into play to control nervousness by diverting it into another physical activity. For some it may be frequently bending of their knees, tapping of feet, fidgeting with fingers and anything as such.
All the above changes should be a part of your habit. It should be same as brushing your teeth like you never consciously pay attention while brushing your teeth. All the mentioned steps are part of effective communication, and you should practice them with your friends, family & anywhere else. Do try it for few days, and you would notice how significantly people starts liking you.
Now since you know the trick, you should ensure not to use it to judge others. Rather, if somebody is Fidgeting or have his arms crossed (Which is a sign of closeness), you should take command & encourage other person to engage with you in the conversation. All the leaders use these body language tricks in their day to day activity, and this is one of many reasons we all like them. So why not use these tricks to improve ourselves?
So, what did you make of these Body language tricks for meeting someone for the first time and being likeable? Shout out your thoughts and comments below.