You log on to Facebook. Your wall, as usual, is flooded with updates from your friends. Also people you hardly know but have found their way on your friend list. Yet one thing is common.
Almost 80% of these updates throw up photos, opinions and videos of everyone pretending to be someone they are not. All of them wanting to create a perception that they are happy, powerful, and having a blast with their lives!
The sad truth with these wannabes is they are miserable. On the surface, they might seem to enjoy what they do but dig a little deep and you will find little value in their claims. The wannabes have forgotten how it feels to be true to oneself. They are under so much pressure to pretend all the time, they don’t realize the freedom and joy which comes from being authentic.
So how do you make sure that you don’t lose sight of yourself? Just make sure you remind yourself of these four qualities which will help you re-claim your authenticity.
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
The wise men have told since time immemorial that the inner self has answers to all our doubts. But due to the pressure of impressing others, we drown out this inner voice almost all the time.
Whenever you are faced with a dilemma of having to make a decision, just ask yourself ‘Will this decision help me become who I have always wanted to be? Or will it be one of those decisions which will make people around me happy and end up leaving me miserable?’
The easiest way you can be authentic is to do what you love. One of the primary reasons people start faking is when they choose to do what they hate. Whether it is doing a job which you don’t love, or being with a person whom you can’t be yourself, every moment of such time spent takes away your authenticity.
If what you are doing in your life doesn’t excite you, start exploring. Assess your strengths and figure out what comes to you naturally. Nature has made us all unique and with this uniqueness comes a combination of talents which only we have access to. Put them to work and live with passion. You don’t have eternity to figure out how to be true to yourself. Start now!
Courage to Fail
One thing which marks people who are authentic is their fearlessness. And this quality is present because they have failed more than anyone else in their domain. Because they learn rapidly from these failures, they are not afraid to try new things.
This courage gives them the confidence to constantly innovate and push their boundaries. They are always on the move, trying to figure out ways they can do what they love and be successful at it. In this process, they become leaders who give direction to others rather than wannabes following the trail of someone else.
Next time you follow you heart, don’t let the fear of failure stop you. It will be worth going through the ordeals once you see the outcome of what your true potential can achieve.
Too many people complain that they would rather be doing something else in life. “I start doing stuff which excites me but midway, I give up because I am afraid what others will think about me.”
Sound familiar? You need to start becoming indifferent. Indifference is a powerful weapon when you use it against the right enemies. And there is one very potent enemy which stops you from being authentic – What others think of you.
The need to be liked is universal and there is nothing wrong with it. The problem arises when this need consumes your life and starts demanding you do anything and everything just to be liked.
Understand one thing. You can never control what others think of you. And no matter what you do, there will always be people trying to hold you back or laugh at you. The authentic ones are those who shrug the naysayers off and boldly move forward to create their own destinies.
Authenticity is all about being yourself, having the guts to do what you want to do in life and being unapologetic about it. So go ahead and live the life you always wanted to!
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